Questions you should ask yourself when you fail

    The more new things we try the more failure we are likely to have.{#blank#}1{#/blank#}. Experiencing failure can be a learning experience and an opportunity for a fresh start. A good way to begin this process is by asking yourself some tough questions.

⑴What can I learn from this?

    Take responsibility for what went wrong. OK, so it was not all your fault—but some of it was. Successful people don't make excuses or blame others. {#blank#}2{#/blank#} So you should look at the experience objectively(客观地).

⑵Do I need to acquire or improve some skills?

    Did the problem reveal some lack of skill on your part? How could you learn or improve those skills? Perhaps there are books or courses or people you could turn to. {#blank#}3{#/blank#}

⑶Who can I learn from?

    Is there someone to whom you can turn for advice? Did a boss, colleague or friend see what happened? {#blank#}4{#/blank#}. Most people do not ask for help because they believe it to be a sign of weakness rather than strength. It's not. It shows that you are ready to learn and change.

⑷What will I do next?

    Now draw up an action plan. Will you try something similar or something different? Revisit your goals. Failure doesn't mean you have to give up; maybe you just need to change it in another way. {#blank#}5{#/blank#}

    When you're dealing with a stressful situation or going through a hard time,people in your life can help you. When someone who cares knows what you're going through,it helps you feel understood and not so alone.{#blank#}1{#/blank#}Problems seem smaller when you talk about them with the right person.You can do better and find out solutions more easily when you share your problems.

    There are lots of different ways to get and give help.{#blank#}2{#/blank#}other times you need advice on things.Help can be very easy,like a homework project.Or it can go on for a while,like teaching to bring up a failing grade or advising to get through a difficult personal situation.

    It's likely you remember times someone helped you.{#blank#}3{#/blank#}Friends helped you get through sadness or deal with disappointment.Teachers might have guided you through the college application process.{#blank#}4{#/blank#}You might give a hand to your classmate who met difficulty.

    Friends,parents,teachers and other adults can be great resources when you need help.There are also times when you need the extra help that a professional can provide best.Doctors can offer specialized help for a health problem.{#blank#}5{#/blank#}

A. Having a right person means a lot.

B. Parents taught you to stop a bad habit.

C. Difficulties are everywhere in your life.

D. You need to learn to give help in the right way.

E. Sometimes you just want to hear an encouraging word.

F. Turn to the professional people for help when you need.

G. And you can also remember times when you helped others.

    It's reported that a male waiter recently poured boiling water over a female customer at a hot pot restaurant after the woman was caught complaining about the waiter's bad service online{#blank#}1{#/blank#}

    The female victim, surnamed Lin, reportedly got into an argument with the waiter, surnamed Zhu, when Zhu refused her repeated request for additional soup for her pot. Lin was rushed to hospital and was diagnosed with severe bums on up to 40% of her body.{#blank#}2{#/blank#}

    Many netizens criticized the waiter for being too impulsive and ignoring the possible consequences, but some also accused Lin of being too picky. Meanwhile, some came up with a question worthy of discussion:{#blank#}3{#/blank#}

    Many tragedies are caused by arguments and if the victim can control his or her anger and try to reach a compromise, the tragedies could possibly be avoided. Sometimes so-called “cowardliness” can be a form of self-protection, especially when you are faced with strangers and you know little about their personalities.

    {#blank#}4{#/blank#} When they calm down afterwards, they would regret their “ridiculous” behavior and have to pay the price for the consequences.

    In May, a male driver in the southwestern city of Chengdu was captured on film intercepting a woman's car and dragging her out of her seat, throwing her on the ground, before cruelly kicking her several times on the head, simply because the woman suddenly changed lanes in front of his car.

    {#blank#}5{#/blank#} Forgive others' mistakes and avoid fueling others' anger. Accordingly, you may be less likely to suffer from unexpected troubles.

A. Will the situation be out of control because of your anger?

B. Intolerance has contributed to lots of violent incidents.

C. How to keep ourselves safe when we argue with others?

D. The waiter has been arrested for further investigation and trial.

E. This incident caused an outcry among netizens and opinion leaders.

F. But it is difficult to control our anger when we have conflict with others.

G. So next time you deal with conflict, it is mere advisable to control your temper and say “sorry” with a smile.

M: Remember Paul from our old school?

W: {#blank#}1{#/blank#}

M: I met him at the checkout in the supermarket the other day, and he was queuing right in front of me.

W: {#blank#}2{#/blank#}

M: Well, he started out as a manager in charge of sales. {#blank#}3{#/blank#} He teaches commercial English there.

W: Why did he get this new job? {#blank#}4{#/blank#}

M: Yes. It is tiring, though. After all, he has got a family to take care of.

W: I see. {#blank#}5{#/blank#}

M: Exactly!

A. Isn't he working in a company as a sales manager?

B. Then he transferred to work for an international giant.

C. Of course I do.

D. But he ended up getting a job at the local university.

E. Isn't it interesting to travel around as a sales manager?

F. That's a good point.

G. Sometimes it is a painful choice, career or family.

    Here come some of the ways advised to keep delighted and a healthy mood by Harvard.

    Be grateful and say thanks often

    {#blank#}1{#/blank#} the tiny purple flowers on the sidewalk, the beautiful sunset, and the smile in your partner's eyes. When you have a grateful heart that is appreciative of life's beauty, wonder and blessings, you're automatically filled with delight. Always be appreciative of the blessings in your life. And it's equally important to express your appreciation to those who've made your life better in some way.

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    If your tendency is to imagine the very worst case whenever you have a trouble, train yourself to change that tendency. Ask yourself what good can come from the situation or what you can learn from it. Optimism surely fuels success and delight.{#blank#}3{#/blank#}. Try to find humor and laughter in life's everyday struggles.

    Understand and forgive

    Step into others' shoes and understand a situation from another's perspective, and we're more likely to handle the situation with objectivity and effectiveness. There will be less conflicts and more delight.

    Hate and anger are forms of self-punishment. When you forgive, you're actually practicing kindness to yourself. Most importantly, learn to forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes.{#blank#}4{#/blank#}.

    Keep learning and be a problem solver

    Learning keeps us young and olive. When engaging our brains toward productive uses, we're much more likely to feel delighted and fulfilled.

    Delighted people are problem solvers. When facing a challenge in life, they don't beat themselves up and fail into a depressive state.{#blank#}5{#/blank#}. By becoming a problem solver, you'll build up your self-confidence and your ability to accomplish whatever you set to.

A. Be optimistic and laugh often

B. Pay attention to the little details in your life

C. Do what you love freely and live happily in the present

D. Laughter is the most powerful treatment to anger or depression

E. It's through our mistakes that we learn and grow to be bigger and better

F. Only by making mistakes repeatedly will we realize it is normal to make mistakes

G. Instead they face the challenge and channel their energies to finding a creative solution

    Near the city of Yogyakarta in Java(爪哇岛)is not only one magnificent(宏伟的)monument, Borobudur(婆罗浮屠), but a second equally impressive one. Prambanan, the second monument, shares a remarkable number of things in common with Borobudur.

    First, both huge temple complexes (建筑群) are thought to have been built at about the same time, around 850 AD. {#blank#}1{#/blank#} Some historians think that both temples were created during the era of the Sailendra Dynasty

    Second, in both cases, the temples appear to have been abandoned just after they were completed. Why were they left alone, isolated (被孤立) in the mountains of Java? {#blank#}2{#/blank#} It certainly took a great deal of effort to build the monument, so why would their use come to a standstill(停止)without a very good reason?

    {#blank#}3{#/blank#} Prior to efforts to restore and preserve them in the 1800s, they lay in ruins, covered with plants. Today, both Borobudur and Prambanan are UNESCO World Heritage sites, famous for their religious art.

    Although there are so many similarities, there are important differences. For example, Prambanan, east of Yogyakarta, is a Hindu temple, while Borobudur, northwest of the city, is a Buddhist temple. {#blank#}4{#/blank#} Overall, its individual (个别的) buildings are smaller than those of Borobudur. Borobudur sits on a hill and you can make it out from some distance. On the other hand, Prambanan is spread out over a flatter area. {#blank#}5{#/blank#}

A. Perhaps it is due to the eruption of the volcano, Mount Merapi.

B. Borobudur and Prambanan each tell their sacred stories in vivid detail.

C. Borobudur temple is one of the best-preserved ancient monuments in Indonesia.

D. However, scholars are not completely sure about the exact dates of construction of either place.

E. Finally, you can go inside the Hindu temple, but you must admire the Buddhist one from the outside.

F. Borobudur is one huge structure with ten levels, but Prambanan is a group of eighteen temple buildings.

G. The third common factor is that both priceless monuments suffered a great deal of damage during the centuries when they were left alone.