Dear Dr Jackson,

My parents are never pleased with me. They are always criticizing (批评) my clothes, my hair and the music I listen to. They hate my friends' looks and they keep complaining when I go with them. I'm not allowed to stay out as late as my friends do, so I can't have any fun. My parents only seem to care about my school marks. Although I love them, sometimes I feel we live in different worlds. If they love me, why don't they understand me?

Angel

Dear Angel,

Your problem is common to both teenagers and parents. Don't worry, because all this is natural. You see, your parents have grown up at a different time and they have different experiences. So, they think some things are strange, but you find the same things ordinary. For example, the music you like may sound like noise to them. Your parents love you, so they feel they must protect you from whatever they find strange. On the other hand, you don't want to be different teenagers, so you feel that your parents restrict you.

I think you should talk about this problem with your parents. Try to explain to them what you want and make them know they can believe you. Sooner or later, they'll find you are a responsible (有责任心的) person and they will give you more freedom.

                                                                           Dr. Jackson