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内蒙古赤峰二中2019届高三上学期英语第三次月考试卷
Why you shouldn't punish your kids for lying
Getting your children to stop lying is challenging. There are many influences (TV, movies, video games and some great books) in which lies are common. Children see parents lie to others, if only to be polite. Most parents add to that with tales about the lives and activities of Santa Claus or the Tooth Fairy, or to lessen fears.
The most common reactions to children who lie are explaining why it is wrong and punishment. Here are three better tools supported by research to use instead.
PRAISE: You could ask your child to say something that happened at school that is true. When your child obeys, praise him enthusiastically. Be specific: and give your child a hug or a high five. Aim for one or two interactions (互动) like this a day. If you happen to "catch" your child in a lie, say something like, "That is not true and could get you in trouble outside of the home."
MODEL: Explicitly tell the truth. This could be about something that happened when you were a child or something that happened during the day. It need not be dramatic. Another option is to play a game at dinner. Each person tells one thing that was true that day. Again, give a little praise to the child who normally lies if she plays along.
DECREASE PUNISHMENT AND MORALIZING: They are unlikely to change behavior or develop the conduct you want. Rather, use very mild punishment (light scolding, short loss of privilege, a brief time-out). More severe punishments (shouting, taking away something for a week, hitting) are not more effective in actually changing the frequency of lying.
Usually they can be dropped by then. It is unlikely that lying will be completely removed, but with the right encouragement, k can be dramatically lessened.
A. It is not what that is, but about practice.
B. As ways of changing behavior, these are ineffective.
C. That does not mean ignoring, lying or letting it go.
D. "That was great! You told me what happened just like I asked. Wow!"
E. Try these procedures for two to three weeks and see where you are.
F. "You did a good job, but what you said was not what I'd like to know!"
G. Parents do this out of love, but for some children, lying can become a problem.
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