I felt like a good mother on that summer morning. I'd 1 up early, made a picnic lunch2 my three- and five-year-old daughters into the car, driven to my friend's house, packed her and her3 into the car, and driven the hour and a half to the shore where we4 our towels on the sands by 10 a.m.

    Soon the girls began running. About 50 yards from us, a man, maybe 5 his late 50s, was fishing. The girls stood next to him and watched with their mouths open 6 he cast the lines. He smiled at them. They all ran back to us except my three-year-old Drew, who7 just seated herself next to the white bucket where the man was 8 planning to put the fish he caught.

    However, suddenly a 9 came to my mind. Is it dangerous for Drew to stay there with the stranger? Good moms should also teach daughters that the world is dangerous. Then, I watched them like there was a hidden 10 in the lifeguard chair filming the man as America's Most Wanted. Every few minutes, I looked to my five-year-old to make sure she hadn't been 11 out to sea, then back to Drew to make sure there was no 12 between her and the stranger.

    When I looked at Drew again, she had started 13 with the man. She was probably telling him where we lived and how her father was away on 14. He nodded. She kept talking. He nodded again, then they laughed.

    A few seconds later, she ran back to us, with a toy fish in her hand. It must have been something 15 he used for bait(饵). The three other girls were 16 so they didn't try to 17 how eager they were to have one.

    Just when I was at a loss, there he was: the man, standing right next to us. He was holding three more toy fish. He handed them to each of the girls. By their 18 I realized that he was 19 a warm-hearted man, meaning no harm at all.

    “Thank you”, I said, realizing that yes, there is evil in this world…but there is also good, and 20 in strangers, and lessons for mothers to learn that only three-year-olds could teach them.

    In the eyes of a teenage girl, my dad is not the considerate type. He's not the father who will prepare a 1 for his daughter's birthday, and nor is he the man who can easily come up with words 2 an upset kid. So he is not a 3 father I admire very much.

    Being in grade 10 was far more difficult than I had 4. The most horrible thing wasn't my5 grades but my lack of confidence. Under the pressure (压力) of both 6 and relationships, I began to doubt if I could finish school 7.

    It only took less than half a year before I became 8. Worse still, I didn't dare to tell my parents9 about the fact that I had lost all my 10 to study hard.

    One difficult Saturday, I felt sad when I couldn't 11 a math problem. I let tears 12 my face and onto my homework. It was disappointing that my father was right there in the room with me but I still couldn't ask him for 13.

    I was doing my homework 14 Dad silently went out on a burning hot day. I 15 he would be out for the rest of the day. However, this thought turned out to be 16 when he returned home with a big bottle of iced tea for me, and a big smile.

    There are surely countless 17 in our way as we grow up. Never be disappointed and the most important thing we need to keep in mind is that our parents are always our 18. They can 19 their characters for us，so why can't we 20 our real thoughts with them forever and always?

    I went with some colleagues from my office for a dinner in a very popular local restaurant. It was 1 business time and the restaurant was packed. We 2 found a table in a corner for three of us.

    As soon as we sat down, we heard a crash when a cleaning boy 3 the floor with all the plates he was carrying. There was 4 and no one was saying or doing anything.

    In a flash I remembered my 5 many years ago. Once, I 6 in the airport because I had rushed there on my own on an empty stomach. I was picked up and taken care of by two 7. Now this was my chance to 8 it forward.

    I ran to the young man's side immediately, turned him on his back and screamed for someone to 9 a hot drink. Soon people started asking if I was a doctor. I said I was not, 10 I was skillful at blacking out(晕厥).

    The kid soon opened his eyes, 11 what had happened. I 12 him by saying it was OK and I had had a 13 experience. He had not eaten anything. I held the 14 drink to his mouth till he finished it and sat with him till he felt OK.By then the 15 had arrived. I asked her to give the kid something to eat. I offered to pay.

    The manager was kind enough to refuse the 16 and agreed to make sure the kid ate before he went home. By the time all this was 17 it was getting late for my colleagues. We hadn't 18 anything yet, so they decided to go home.

    I slowly walked home, not hungry any more, feeling 19 for the opportunity I pay forward the 20 I had received many years ago.

    Once there was an old farmer, with a horse which was almost as old as himself. He 1 one morning with his young son 2 the horse before it died. Father and son walked, 3 the farmer did not want the horse to be 4.

    They met two men on the road 5 said:"Why are you walking, farmer? You have a horse. It's 6 to market."The farmer knew that this was 7, so he rode on the horse, 8 his son walked.

    Then they met two old ladies. " 9 are you doing up there, farmer? Can't you 10 how tired your boy is?"11 the farmer got down, and his son rode 12 .

    13 , three old men stopped them. One said:"Why are you walking, farmer? 14 . It's too hot for an old man like you to walk today."So the farmer got up 15 his son, and they 16 . 17, a young woman passed them."Why aren't you walking?"she asked. "It isn't 18 to market. Give your poor old horse a rest." So the farmer, and his son, got down 19.

    It is a fact that you cannot please（使喜欢；使满意）20the people all the time.

    You may be surprised to see “making sure children never suffer” as a mistake.  The following 1may help you understand how rescuing children from all suffering2weakness.

    A little boy felt sorry for a butterfly3 to emerge from its chrysalis(蛹). He decided to4the butterfly. So he peeled (剥开) the chrysalis open for the butterfly. The little boy was so5to watch the butterfly spread its wings and fly off into the sky.  Then he was horrified6he watched the butterfly fall to the ground and die because it did not have the muscle7to keep flying. In fact, the butterfly's struggle to8the chrysalis helps the butterfly become stronger.

Like the little boy, 9too often want to protect their children from struggle in the10of love. They don't realize that their children need to struggle, to experience11. To deal with disappointment, and to solve their own problems. Only in this way can children12their emotional strength, become 13and develop the skills necessary for the even bigger struggles they will meet throughout their lives. Children experiencing sufferings can14the ups and downs of life.

    However, it isn't helpful either in this case when parents15lectures(训斥), blame and shame to what the child is experiencing. Mothers 16to say, “Stop crying and acting like a spoiled boy. You can't always get what you want.” These17words should be avoided.

    Instead, parents can offer loving support. You can say, “Don't lose18. Be brave! You will succeed if you try again. ” Then comes the tough part-no19and no lectures. Simply allow him to discover that he can get over his disappointment and20what he can do to get what he wants in the future.

    When my wife, Jane, and I were 16, we were in the same class. About a week before Thanksgiving Day, we found out that our teacher Edward was having some 1challenges. We wanted to do something to help, so as a class we 2to gather food, clothing and gifts to 3his family had a good Thanksgiving Day.

    When Jane told her family about our plan, her mother was 4. Together they searched their house for things they could 5. Her mother went to the kitchen, 6 a big turkey and saying, "Thanksgiving Day won't be 7without a turkey dinner." To this day, Jane remembers how moved she was by her mother's 8.

Before making our 9, we said a prayer of appreciation for the wonderful 10 to help others. I will never forget the surprised 11 of our teacher and his wife when they 12 the door; their four children gathered around them as we handed out the gifts. It was a cold night; we all felt warm inside, 13.

    Last month while I was in a meeting, my secretary informed me, "Your high school teacher Mr. Edward is wondering if you could 14 him a few minutes. He's sitting in your office right now!"

    I left my meeting and went to my office 15. My teacher and I hugged and began to 16 the last 42 years. He told me he 17 remembered that cold winter night when we brought the 18of Thanksgiving Day to his family. The food and gifts were certainly appreciated, 19what warmed his heart that night was to see a group of teenagers who understood the 20of Thanksgiving Day.