Human growth is a process of experimentation, trial, and error eventually leading to wisdom. Each time you choose to trust yourself and take action, you can never quite be certain how the situation will 1 

        Sometimes you are victorious, and sometimes you become disappointed. The 2  experiments, however, are no less valuable than the experiments that finally prove successful; in fact, you

3 learn more from your "failures" than you do from your 4   If you have made what you think to be a mistake or failed to live up to your own  5   you will most likely put up a barrier between your essence and the part of you that is the alleged (F 7/ßfi^kJ) wrong-doer.

         However, viewing past actions as  6  implies guilt and blame, and it is not possible to learn anything meaning while you are engaged in blaming.  7  forgiveness is required when you are severely judging yourself. Forgiveness is the act of erasing an  8 debt. There are four kinds of forgiveness.

        The first is beginner forgiveness for yourself.

        The second of forgiveness is beginner forgiveness for another.

        The third kind of forgiveness is 9  forgiveness of yourself. This is for serious misbehaviors, the ones you carry with deep  10    When you do something that violates your own values and principles, you create a gap between your standards and your actual  11 

        In such a case, you need to work very hard at  12  yourself for these deeds so that you can close this gap. This does not  13 that you should rush to forgive yourself or shouldn't feel regret,    14  taking pleasure in these feelings for a prolonged period of time is not healthy.

The 15   and perhaps most difficult one is the advanced forgiveness of another.

        At some time of our life, you may have been severely wronged or hurt by another person to such a degree that forgiveness seems 16 .However, harboring anger and revenge fantasies only keeps you  17  in victimhood. Under such a circumstance, you should force yourself to see the bigger picture. By so doing, you will be able to  18  the focus away from the anger and resentment.

        It is only through forgiveness that you can erase wrongdoing and  19  the memory. When you can  20 release the situation, you may come to see it as a necessary part of your growth.

    I went to a dinner party at a friend's home last weekend and met her five-year-old daughter for the first time. Little Maya was all curly brown hair, dark eyes, and lovely 1 her shiny pink nightgown ( 睡裙) .I wanted to say, “Maya, you're so2!

    Turn around and model that pretty gown for me. You're beautiful!” But I didn't.

    “Maya,” I said,3into her eyes, “it's very nice to meet you.”

    “ Nice to meet you, too.” She said, in that4, talking-to-adults, good girl voice.

    “Hey, what are you reading?” I asked. Her eyes got bigger, and the practiced, polite facial 5gave way to real excitement over this6. But she seemed too7 to answer me.

    “I love books,” I said. “Do you?”

    Most8do.

    “Yes,” she said. “And I can9them all by myself now!”

    “Wow,10!” I said. And it is, for a five-year-old.

    “What's your favourite book?” I asked.

    “I'll go and get it! Can I read it to you?”

    Purplicious was Maya's11, and a new one to me, as she sat next to me and12read aloud every word. Then I told her that I'd just13a book, and that I hoped she'd write one, too, one day. She was crazy14 that idea. We were both sad when Maya had to go to bed,15I told her next time to choose another book and we'd read it.

    Try this the next time you meet a little girl. She may be16and unsure at first, because few people ask her about her17, but be patient and stick with it. Ask her what she's reading. What does she like and dislike, and why? You're just18 an intelligent (明智的) conversation that respects her brain. Tell her about your19 and accomplishments, and your favourite books. Set a good example for her of what a 20woman says and does.

     My husband and I insisted that our children were old enough to clean their rooms and make their beds. But they thought 1. My complaints, even self-justified shouting, were always landing on 2 ears.  Very often a whole hour's scolding would end with their 3 into tears, I felt very frustrated (沮丧的).I realized I needed to 4 my method of "mothering".

     One day when they were at school, I spent some time 5 their rooms. On their desks, in plain 6, I left the cards: " Bill (the other card was 7 to Sarah), your room was messy this morning and I'm sure you like it clean. Love, the Room Fairy." 8 arriving back, the children were 9 excited to receive the little note from the Room Fairy. The next day, their rooms were fairly tidy. Sure enough, there was another note from the Room Fairy 10 for them, thanking them for their nice "gift" of a clean room and 11 asking them to play a certain violin 12. Each day, thank--you notes would be written differently to keep the ideas 13.

     Sometimes the Room Fairy would propose a little 14: "If you can finish your homework and 15 your lessons before dinner, I'd like to watch a particular television program with you tonight." Sometimes some colored markers or other little items would be left in 16 of well done jobs the day17.

     18 I can't remember how long "the Room Fairy" continued leaving her love notes. When they were age appropriate, we used various versions of Post-Its(贴条). The bathroom mirror became the 19 centre of our home. Appointments, notices about visiting relatives, lesson schedules, and changes in plans could be posted.

     We all benefited from and 20the idea of sharing reminders and daily details of life through notes. I believe the true advantage of the Room Fairy notes survives in our frequent and enjoyable communication.

    It was Mother's Day and I was shopping at the local supermarket with my five-year-old son, Tenyson. As we were 1 ， we realized that only minutes earlier an 2 woman had fallen over at the entrance and hit her head on the ground. 3was with her, but there was blood everywhere and the woman was embarrassed and clearly in shock. 4, a lot of people stopped to help out.

    5we were walking towards the scene, Tenyson became very 6about what had happened to the elderly people. He 7to me, "Mom, it's not much fun falling over in front of 8." Seeing that there was a flower stall（摊位）in the front of the supermarket, he added, "Why shouldn't we 9  the lady a flower? It will make her feel better." I was 10that he'd come up with this 11  idea. So we went over and told the flower seller 12 we wanted. "Just take it," she replied. "I 13 take your money for such a wonderful 14.”

    By now medical staff had arrived, and were 15 the injured woman. We gave the flower to the woman's husband and I told him it was 16my son. At that, the old man started crying and said, "Thank you very much." He then turned to me, "You have a 17 son. Happy Mother's Day to you."

    The man bent down and gave his wife the flower, telling her who it was from. 18being badly hurt, the old lady looked up at Tenyson with 19 in her eyes and gave him a little 20.

    Zigfried, a little mouse, blew his breath on the frosty window of the farmhouse and rubbed it to see the outside. Still nobody came. Maybe today, he thought 1. It was only a few days before Christmas and he was watching for a miracle (奇迹).

    This farmhouse had been 2 too long. It needed a family. Zigfried's3 made a noise. He realized that he hadn't eaten anything since yesterday. He jumped from the windowsill (窗沿), grabbed a4  from his home, and went next door to Farmer Mike's.

    Farmer Mike's house had been a great place for the little mouse5the farmer married a wife who had a cat. Zigfried6when he thought of it. He looked around cautiously as he7  into the room where grain was stored and was quite8as he filled his bag with wheat. He was turning to leave when suddenly he9 a hot breath about his ear. His heart beat10 , and without thinking he started to run and luckily11 the cat's paws (爪子).

    The next afternoon Zigfried heard some good news: a 12family would be moving into the farmhouse soon. Zigfried's granny would arrive on Christmas Eve to13with him. He hoped that the family would come before his granny came. Before long, a car came14 the road leading to the house, with butter sandwiches, cheese and chocolate.

    Zigfried's Christmas miracle did arrive!

    The house came15 the next few days. Zigfried16 every single hour of them.17 the day before Christmas when he was drinking hot chocolate with a 18 smile at the door of his home, he heard the19of the children of the family about what they might get for Christmas. What? A cat? The20 froze on his face; his mouth fell wide open. After a long while, he at last found his voice: "Hey! Whose Christmas miracle is this?"

    One evening, Mr. Green was driving his car along a lonely country road. He had drawn $10,000 from the bank in town. Suddenly a man in rags (破旧衣服) stopped him and asked for 1. Mr. Green told him to get in and continued on his way. 2 he talked to the man, Mr. Green learned that he had just broken out of prison. Mr. Green was very afraid at the thought of his 3. Suddenly he saw a police-car and had a 4 idea. He put on speed and drove as quickly as possible. Then he found the police-car running 5 him. After a mile or so, the police-car passed him and 6 him to stop. A policeman came up. Mr. Green had hoped to tell him about the trouble but the man put a gun to Mr. Green's 7.

    The policeman said he wanted Mr. Green's name and 8 and Mr. Green told him. The policeman wrote it down in his notebook and put it in his 9. "You must go to the police station." He said. Then he talked to Mr. Green about dangerous 10. Mr. Green started up his car again. He had 11 all hope of his $10,000, but as he reached a more lonely part, the robber said he wanted to 12. Mr. Green stopped and the man said, "Thank you. You've been so 13 to me. This is what I can do in 14." And he handed Mr. Green the policeman's 15 which he stole while the policeman was talking to Mr. Green.