How to get along with your boss

    In your career, you may have to report to a manager, the person you call boss.

    {#blank#}1{#/blank#}Here are some tips to help you develop an effective relationship with your boss.

    The first step is to develop a positive relationship with your boss. Relationships are based on trust.{#blank#}2{#/blank#}Keep timetable commitments (承诺). Never blindside (偷袭) your manager with surprises that you could have predicted or prevented. Keep him/her informed about your projects and interactions with the rest of the organization.

    Tell the boss when you've made an error or one of your reporting staff has made a mistake.{#blank#}3{#/blank#} Lies or efforts to mislead always result in further stress for you as you worry about getting “caught”. Communicate daily or weekly to build the relationship.

    Recognize that success at work is not all about you.{#blank#}4{#/blank#}Identify your boss's areas of weakness or greatest challenges and ask what you can do to help. What are your boss's biggest worries? How can your contribution reduce these concerns? Understand your boss's goals and priorities. Place emphasis in your work to match her priorities. Think in terms of the overall success of your department and company，not just about your narrow world at work.

    {#blank#}5{#/blank#} Does he/she like frequent communication, autonomous employees, requests in writing in advance of a meeting, or informal conversation as you pass in the halfway? Your boss's preferences are important. The better you understand them, the better you will work with him/her.

    If you sometimes disagree and occasionally experience an emotional reaction, don't hold hatred. Don't make threats about leaving. Disagreement is fine. You need to come to terms with the fact that your boss has more authority and power than you do.

A. Do what you say you'll do.

B. Value your boss's time.

C. Cover-ups (掩饰) don't contribute to an effective relationship.

D. Identify what he/she values in an employee.

E. Put your boss's needs at the center of your universe.

F. The relationship with your boss is important for your work success and career progress.

G. Learning how to read your boss's moods and reactions is also helpful.

    The process of forgiveness can be a liberating experience. Interestingly, forgiveness can only occur because we have been given the gift of the ability to make choices. {#blank#}1{#/blank#} The choice of offering forgiveness develops along three steps.

    At step one you are filled with self justified anger. At some point in your life you have been hurt and you are mad at the person who you feel has wronged you. You blame the person committing the wrong. {#blank#}2{#/blank#} You have forgotten that you have a choice as to how you will react.

    The second step towards forgiveness emerges when after feeling angry with someone for a while you realize that the anger does not feel good to you. {#blank#}3{#/blank#} So you take steps to forgive. You may begin to see the problem from the other person's point of view or you may simply decide to let the problem go. {#blank#}4{#/blank#}

    The third stage of forgiveness comes after you have seen the beneficial results of forgiveness and you don't want to waste your precious life in discomfort. In this stage the choice is to work to either repair the relationship or let go of seeing the situation as a problem. {#blank#}5{#/blank#} At this stage you are aware that the length of time you experience the situation as a sorrow is primarily up to you.

A. If we want to forgive someone, no one can stop us.

B. We have the choice to forgive or not to forgive and no one can force us to do either.

C. In either case you decide to forgive because you have had some practice with it and see the benefit in your life.

D. It is their action and not your choice of response that you feel causes your anger.

E. In either case you are no longer angry and you have forgiven the person.

F. This could emerge in a situation where you are cut off by another car on the road.

G. It may be hurting your emotional balance or your physical health.

    Keeping the memory in shape is important at any age, but it requires a bit more work as we grow. There are some simple activities that can improve your memory.{#blank#}1{#/blank#}

    Awaken your senses.

    Use your senses to help your memory store(储存) needed information.{#blank#}2{#/blank#}You can ask yourself like this: Is the sky a light blue or deep purple? The more involved(参与的) you can be in the information, the easier it is for your brain to store it.

    Use imagination and relation.

    Trying to remember names? Let's say you meet a man named Frank Parker.{#blank#}3{#/blank#}Tie the two together by picturing Frank dressed up in a hot dog costume(服装) parking his car in the parking lot. Now each time you see Frank, you should easily recall his name.

    Breathe deeply and relax.

    {#blank#}4{#/blank#}Relax, breathe deeply and slowly and let your mind ease up for a minute. Being relaxed makes it easier for information to be both stored and remembered.

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    When you come upon something you need to remember, say to yourself, "Hey, pay attention and remember this! "You are giving yourself a wake-up call as well as giving your mind a marker that it can use to help in storing the new information.

A. Give yourself an order.

B. Get a good night's sleep.

C. Here are four of them to get you started.

D. Picture a hot dog for Frank and a car for Parker.

E. For example, note the colors of a picture you want to remember.

F. When we try hard to remember something we often become nervous.

G. The way you live influences not only your physical health but also your memory.

    A good laugh is like a mild workout (锻炼). It exercises the muscles, gets the blood flowing, decreases blood pressure and improves sleep patterns and the immune system. {#blank#}1{#/blank#}

    Don't take life too seriously. We all have obstacles in life and we all make mistakes. {#blank#}2{#/blank#} In fact, if you can laugh light-heartedly at your own fault, you'll find that you give yourself that extra happiness and confidence increase that can get you over any obstacle.

    Find the humor in a bad situation. Sure, there are some situations where you are really sad. {#blank#}3{#/blank#} The next time you feel the stress levels rising, take a minute to think about the funny side of the situation and laugh over the things you cannot control. This will lower your blood pressure, blood sugar levels and heart rate.

    Remind yourself of funny moments from the past. Perhaps a friend told you a great joke the other day or your children or pets did something amusing. {#blank#}4{#/blank#} Sometimes just reliving (重温，再次体验) a funny moment can cause the endorphins(内啡肽), natural painkillers, to kick in.

    {#blank#}5{#/blank#} As the saying goes, laughter is contagious(会传染的）. So make a point of (重视) seeking out positive people who aren't afraid to laugh at themselves and are good at finding humor in life's situations. Young children are especially skilled at finding laughter and joy in everyday moments.

A. Take control over your emotions.

B. There is no reason to blame yourself for it.

C. However, most situations in life have funny sides.

D. Surround yourself with fun people who like to laugh a lot.

E. The following are some ways to enjoy more laughter and joy in your life.

F. Studies show that people with pets have lower levels of depression and stress.

G. Call on these memories frequently, especially when feeling sad, angry or stressed.

    There are great health benefits from walking: slimmer waistline, better emotions, more focus, a stronger immune system and balanced blood levels. {#blank#}1{#/blank#}But walking with good habits will strengthen those benefits as well as avoid any injuries. Here are the ways on how to walk properly.

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    Although everyone has their own way of walking, certain common behaviors can improve almost everyone's walking experience. Chief among these is your posture(姿势).As you walk, keep your head upright, your back straight, and your chin up. Otherwise, bad posture can lead to back pain, an inflexible neck, and even more serious diseases.

    Add warming up

    Before your workout, make sure you stretch (伸展) muscles to avoid injury. {#blank#}3{#/blank#}Not only may you get injured, but it will also get you tired even quicker. Start with a walk at a normal pace and then slowly increase the pace.

    Swing your arms

    Don't hold your arms tight by your side. If so, it looks awkward and also limits walking pace. Your walking pace will become faster as long as you swing your arms. If weather permits, try to keep your hands out of your pockets. {#blank#}4{#/blank#}

    Time your walks

    When walking, the time you do so matters. Make sure you walk a few minutes after you eat, not immediately. That way, your body can still digest what you just ate before a workout. {#blank#}5{#/blank#}May it be 15-30 minutes every day, find time to walk and exercise, keeping your body active.

A. Relax before walking.

B. Stand straight while walking.

C. Don't go walking at a high speed immediately!

D. It's best to create a schedule suitable for your lifestyle.

E. In other words, walking can make you happier and healthier.

F. Doing so allows you to walk faster and farther than you would otherwise.

G. Having your shoulders pulled back makes you more confident and greater!

Improving your family life can help make your family members closer and prevent conflicts from getting in the way of everyone's happiness. But at times it seems difficult. {#blank#}1{#/blank#} Here are some concrete steps to make your life more enjoyable.

Do household chores (杂务) together. {#blank#}2{#/blank#} However, sharing household responsibilities can help everyone in your family feel happy. Try to make it as fun as possible, such as by playing music or having contests. Besides, divide chores up into age-appropriate categories. After dinner, the youngest could wipe the table, the oldest could fill the dishwasher, and you could put away leftovers.

{#blank#}3{#/blank#}When someone expresses an opinion, don't interrupt them before they can finish speaking. Maintaining respectful communication channels will strengthen your bond.

Express love and appreciation frequently. Little verbal (口头的) and nonverbal gestures of affection go a long way. {#blank#}4{#/blank#} If your sibling is doing their homework and there's an empty glass on their desk, ask them, "Hey, can I get you more water?"

Respect your parents' need to protect you. While children need increasing degrees of freedom as they get older, remember that your parents are in charge. Their job is to keep you safe and give you the tools you'll need to take care of yourself when you're an adult. If your parent doesn't allow you to go out without an adult or makes you go to bed early, remember that they have your best interests in mind. {#blank#}5{#/blank#}

A. Why do you feel so?

B. Where do you start?

C. Few people actually enjoy that.

D. Chores mean more responsibilities.

E. Respect what your family members say.

F. Don't yell to get your way if they say no!

G. Find small ways to show you care for each other.