As a kid, your parents made decisions about everything from the food you ate in the morning to the pajama (睡衣) you wore at night. This is a good thing—kids need this because they are too 1 to live by themselves.

    But sooner or later, kids grow up and become teens. And part of being a teen is 2 a new you—one that is different from your parents'. This change may make your parents feel 3.

They aren't prepared for the new you yet—they still 4 you as the kid who knew nothing. In most families, this change can also cause a lot of fighting between teens and parents. You want to cover your walls with pop-star pictures; they don't understand 5 you don't like your children's wallpaper anymore. You think it's OK to 6 at the shopping mall every day after school, they hope that you play a sport.

It can take several years for parents and teens to 7 their new roles. And sometimes this can feel impossible—like they just don't understand you and never will. But talking and sharing your 8 can help you get more understanding from your parents; and you may be able to get the 9 that everyone is happy about. For example, if you clean you room in order to stay out an hour later, both you and your parents will walk away with a good 10.

    Keep in mind that your parents were teens once and they can relate to what you're going through.